Comments on Just Plain Sense: When Sally met Harry

Totally, entirely spot on Christine. Made me quite...

2011-09-06T20:09:58.339+01:00

Totally, entirely spot on Christine. Made me quite emotional. You could have been writing about my life...as I let the chance of a relationship slip by here because I don't know how, when, or if to 'tell'. I really don't know how I will ever find an answer to that. Perhaps one day I will...I hope.

This is a great piece and it's not easily answ...

2011-06-02T15:19:53.019+01:00

This is a great piece and it's not easily answered. All I know is the longer one has been transitioned, the less one tends to bring it up at first so unless dating is arranged through services that are trans-specific, such as some websites or nightlife haunts, then it's easy to end up in an awkward situation for both parties.

I've spoken for quite some time for the need of additional vocabulary to bridge the gap between straight and gay relations as although there are superficial similarities to both, the trans experience is seperate from both too. In fact I'll shortly be adding from the ton of responses I gathered to my post at http://www.danistroom.com/inspirations/help/transexual-admirers-gay-straight.html on whether people think "curvy" is a useful term for those that are neither bent nor straight or indeed if we need such words at all. I'd love to get your thoughts too Christine!

Thanks Christine, your description of how Sally ca...

2011-06-01T10:28:18.305+01:00

Thanks Christine,
your description of how Sally came to terms with her transexuality, and her sexuality after transition had so many resonances for me.
I also thought your point about a relationship where one partner is gay and the other straight, or lesbian with gay, or straight and straight was a very good one.

I am a trans women. I would like to date women, bu...

2011-06-01T08:16:28.866+01:00

I am a trans women. I would like to date women, but find the telling the other person my history too much. So I don't date. Lesbian day 1 females also don't seem to like people like me, which makes telling them even more scary! Resolved to be lonely. Big sigh. Rachel

I'm a trans man and I tell people as soon as w...

2011-05-31T22:37:03.046+01:00

I'm a trans man and I tell people as soon as we get close enough to start sharing secrets - by which point I will already know if it is "safe" to tell them, myself being a good judge of character. With regards to sexual partners, I won't go any further than kissing without them knowing. Most people I've dated are bisexual anyway so they were fine with it.